By Donna M. White, LMHC, CACP

Marriage rates supposedly are on the decline. While it’s an oft-repeated statistic that 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce, that number has remained unchanged for the past 30 years. Divorce rates also vary with the partners’ level of education, religious beliefs, and many other factors.

But when divorce does happen, it results in difficulties for adults as well as children. For adults, divorce can be one of life’s most stressful life events.

1. I walk down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I fall in.

I am lost.I am hopeless.

It isn't my fault.

It takes forever to find a way out.

2. I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I pretend I don't' see it.

I fall in again.

I can't believe I'm in the same place.

But it isn't my fault.

I still takes a long time to get out.

3. I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it is there.

I still fall in, it's a habit.

Stanley Siegal, LCSW, has written some great articles on sex and relationships. His basic theory about sex within relationships, called "Intelligent Lust", is great and worth checking out. 

Here is a link to his article in Psychology Today,

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/intelligent-lust/201108/intelligent-lust

Check it out!

During the Thanksgiving weekend and following week, I attended a 10day Vipassana meditation retreat.  It was 10days of meditation all while observing "Noble silence", which means NO talking.  I was fine without talking for 10days, but I missed reading and writing a lot.  I often write in a journal, and it was difficult to stay present with myself for 10days straight without the journaling as an outlet for things that were coming up for me. But that was the point of depriving the students of all forms of external distractions.

CNN posts an article about the use of Mindfullness therapy and its success. Check it out by clicking the link below.